Have you ever had a broken heart? Have you ever been hurt by someone you love? Or lost someone you cared about deeply? The answer is probably yes. It’s kinda part of life, unfortunately. I don’t know many people who have not experienced some form of heartache.
And it affects us. Even if we think it doesn’t. We may think we are ok and it wasn’t that big a deal. Or maybe it was. Maybe you were rocked to the ground. Broken into a thousand little pieces and thought you would never find your way out.
Why we build walls around our hearts
When we experience great heartache, loss and pain we create strategies to cope. One of them is creating walls around us and our hearts to keep us safe.
It’s something that we do subconsciously when we have been hurt. Walls protect. They keep out the enemy, the pain and the negativity. They keep us safe right?
It seems like a good idea (remember this is mostly unconscious), put up a wall so I won’t get hurt again. Put up a wall so they can’t _______ (insert what makes sense for you).
It makes sense, doesn’t it?
But walls keep everything out, the bad and the good.
They protect but they also isolate. They stop people and love getting in.
Energetically and unconsciously we feel them. Other people feel them. We try to get close to someone and there is this feeling, ‘something’ that we can’t get through. A blockage. A barrier. They feel distant or maybe disinterested.
Or maybe that’s how you feel to others.
Or our relationships are a struggle. We feel like there is a block, something that is stopping things from progressing, from going deep.
Does any of this sound familiar?
When I have sessions with my clients I can see the walls. I can feel them. I can see how they are blocking the very thing that people want – closeness, connection and love.
Maybe they are from this life or maybe they have been formed over many lives. Whatever happens to us travels with us until we deal with it. Every disappointment, every betrayal, every heartbreak.
We often think it’s the other person that is causing the problem. But maybe it’s us? Maybe the wall is pushing them away. Maybe we think we are open but really there it is that big old wall! Blocking you and your relationships.
It’s hard for people to get in when you are sending out big etheric do not enter sign vibes!
Signs you have a may have a wall around your heart
- You feel like to can’t connect to people on a real emotional level.
- You’re scared to connect to people and build deep relationships.
- You have been hurt in a relationship or by someone you love or respect. (This could be an intimate relationship or it could be with a friend or a family member.)
- You have been abused.
- You feel there is a block to intimacy.
- You can feel or sense the wall in some way.
- You have been told you are difficult to get close to.
- You have suffered grief or loss.
- anything that would make you feel it’s not safe to form intimate relationships.
But the good thing is –
What goes up can come down!
What we build we can unbuild.
They do not have to be permanent and you don’t have to keep adding to them. I can help remove them and learn to trust and feel safe.
If you feel like you may have a wall that you’d like to take down then my healings are a safe place to do so. I’d love to help you.
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