Why your inner child is the key to your happiness
First published February 2018. Updated August 2025
Have you ever wondered why certain patterns or fears keep showing up, no matter how much work you’ve done?
The answer often lies in your inner child.
Your inner child is the most beautiful little being. She is the part of you that lives within — carrying your secrets, your dreams, your hopes, and your fears. She holds the key to unlocking your subconscious and guiding you into deep healing and transformation.
Your inner child is not simply you when you were a child. She is the childlike version of your current self — holding all your emotions, hopes, and fears, and every experience you’ve had in this life (and even before). She has been with you the whole time, quietly holding the pieces of your story.
Unlike the’ adult you’, who may have buried or disconnected from painful experiences, your inner child remembers it all.
She holds the feelings, memories, and energy of every moment you’ve lived. That’s why, when you learn to connect with her, big shifts are possible. She knows you more deeply than anyone else ever could.
Why the Inner Child Matters
Because she carries all of your experiences, your inner child has full access to every thought and emotion you’ve ever had. She remembers the times you felt unseen, unheard, or unloved — and also the times you felt pure joy and wonder.
This is why inner child work is so powerful. By reconnecting with her, you begin to heal the places where you once felt abandoned, rejected, or hurt. And as that healing happens, you reclaim the freedom to live with more love, self-worth, and happiness.
Think about it:
The urge to please others, even when you don’t want to.
The fear of rejection that stops you from speaking up.
The longing for approval or validation from outside yourself.
All of these are patterns your inner child understands intimately.
She is the key to transforming them.
The Gifts of Inner Child Healing
When you reconnect with your inner child, you begin to:
See the parts of yourself you had forgotten.
Remember your strengths and beauty.
Release old wounds and patterns.
Experience a deeper sense of self-love.
And perhaps the most beautiful part? She will love you fiercely.
You will never feel alone again.
You will learn to nurture and love yourself in ways that are deeply healing and empowering.
Self-Love and Personal Growth
Your inner child is the key to self-love and personal growth. When you connect with her, you begin to meet your own needs instead of searching for them outside yourself.
You feel content, loved, appreciated, and valued — not because others tell you so, but because you’ve learned to give that love to yourself.
You no longer chase validation from others, because you understand that true validation can only come from within.
Your Inner Guide
All the advice about “listening to yourself” and “trusting your intuition” makes so much more sense once you’re connected to your inner child. She is your inner guide. She can communicate directly with your soul.
When you feel lost or unsure of what you want, ask your inner child. When you’re confused, unbalanced, or out of sorts, check in with her — you might be surprised at the clarity she brings.
She shines a light into the dark corners of your unconscious so you can see what needs to be healed, acknowledged, or released.
She is your most powerful ally, your best friend, and your greatest love.
Building the Relationship
Like all relationships, connecting with your inner child takes practice and commitment.
Trust builds over time. But once you’ve established this bond, it becomes the most important relationship you’ll ever have.
After all, what is more important than the relationship you have with yourself?
How I Can Support You
Connecting with your inner child on your own can open powerful doors — but sometimes, the wounds run so deep or feel so hidden that it’s hard to reach them without support. That’s where I come in.
In an Ignite Your Spirit session, I hold a safe, nurturing space for you to meet your inner child in a way that feels supported and guided. Together, we gently uncover the pain they’ve been holding, release the emotions that have kept you stuck, and begin to rewrite the story from the inside out.
This isn’t just about feeling better for a moment. It’s about creating lasting shifts — breaking free from old patterns, restoring your sense of self-worth, and helping you step into a life that feels lighter, freer, and more authentically you.
If you’re ready to meet your inner child and begin this life-changing journey of healing and transformation, I would be honoured to walk beside you.
✨ Reconnect with the most important person in your life — YOU.
